14 Days of Giving Love: What do you wish you knew about love when you first started dating?

That the little voice inside of me that tells me something is not good for me is the best guide. I wish that I had listened to that voice sooner; before painful experiences showed me what and who wasn’t good for me.

Love yourself first. Always.

What do you wish you knew about love when you first started dating? I wish I knew that not everyone has the best intention for being kind, honest, respectful & decent. I wish I knew that I must always listen to my intuition. If something doesn’t feel right, listen.

How to accept it.

I wish I knew that falling in love was all about me, and not about the other person!

I wish I knew that love can change and it is ok – suffering is useless. and love is much about acceptance too and about loving yourself a LOT.

I wish I knew that love would find me…I didn’t have to look for it

That in order to fully give your love to someone and be the best partner you can be, you need to learn how to truly love and accept yourself first.

I wish I knew how to release the idea that I am not good or worthy enough to receive the love I deserve. As someone else said ‘love yourself first’. This is something that I have always found to be a challenge. My low self esteem and love often interfears (get it)- this is one thing I wish I knew before I started dating.

To be my true self and not what the other person wants or needs.

I wish I knew that 16 years old is too young to be able to handle the emotion of being in love.

I wish i had known myself as i do now, for maybe if i had of known who I really am and what I was capable of, i may have realised my self worth and not given myself as freely as i did, which could have prevented so much heartache, and perhaps i would possibly be married today if i had of known those things, but better late than never, ive learnt some lessons and my time is now, thank you

I wish I knew that you need to work for your relationship and nurture it. That Love can not survive if you don’t consciously work and put energy into the relationship you are in <3

I wish I was not afraid of love. I wish i knew I deserved romantic love.

I wish I knew it was all about loving and accepting yourself first.

I wish I had remembered that I am worthy of love and that when you “need” it the least, love flows freely to you.

That love is blind! It disables logic and allows you to overlook things about a person that you really needed to pay closer attention to.

I wish I knew to trust love and not fear it. Trust my inner guidance that I would be drawn to the right person for me at this time. I wish I had know that to love another was to demonstrate your love of yourself.

Relax, say what you mean. Express yourself. Say your wants and fears.

I wish I knew that I couldn’t love someone else if I didn’t first love myself.

Surrender. Be myself and allow.

That I just need to be myself. He either likes me or he doesn’t. I don’t have to change myself so he will like me. I am the prize!

I wish I knew to not be afraid of love with the what ifs and how’s and to just be in the moment so that I would share myself fearlessly and openly. That’s what keeps true love at a distance, the fear of it.

I wish I knew that love is who I already am and the attraction I feel towards another is simply me fully being myself.

I wish I had known that the essence of love was within me already. That dating is about sharing that love. That there is enough love within us that we don’t need to beg for it. And that dating is not about falling in love, but standing in love for each other.

I wish I knew that love was not to be found outside of myself. May also have been good to know more of the equation of love and sex.

That you have to date yourself first before you can date him. If you don’t know and love yourself deeply it’s impossible to have a healthy relationship. I wish I knew my real self worth and inner greatness or at least had a clue.

What do you wish you knew about love when you first started dating?

( i lost the trust and faith i had in myself when we both walked on our separate ways )

i wish i had known about ” Self love” when i first started dating.

i wish i had a ”self understanding” and was self – aware
in self discovery instead of trying to find the old and new of me in a relationship through good and bad experiences.

over the years i have gained back all my faith and trust but i wish i was already self transformed before the relationship not after the relationship.

i missed out the joy and the laughter over the years which i already had it in me

I vote for self love : )

I wish I knew… And feel that more connected I’m with my self love, more love I can attract into my life

I wish I knew that I didnt have to give up myself to be loved. This comment is in the same vein as all the comments above – Not loving oneself enough

The same thing I’m trying to tell myself today. That I deserve it.

I wish I knew how to Love and Accept Myself.

That I am always lovable, even if someone no longer wants to be in a committed relationship.

I knew that if I was not being 100% myself, there would be no real relationship.
Also, if I had to accept myself and then others would accept me. (:

I wish I knew…
>that the love I attract depends on how open my own heart is
>that my Self worth is not dependent on whether a guy likes me or not — it’ NOT out there…
>that by honoring, acknowledging and loving myself at an early age, I would have created the control, confidence and grounding I so desperately craved

The Notebook shows the kind of love I want because among trials and tribulations he remained loyal to her. In life we are to go through so much unexpectedly. Knowing no matter what my husband will be there, loyal to me through it all makes it so that I know I can handle anything.

what i wish i knew – that i know now to do… is how to fill myself with Love- fill the hole- the abyss in my own heart… how to cultivate my inner radiance…then I come from my wholeness… and my goddess presence is then a healing power.. to me and to my beloved. I do a wonderful gesturing exercise… that does this for me… that fills me with Love– then I am in a wonderful place and all love to be in my Presence….I am only a novice- not a master at such… but I continue to cultivate that practice. I have been married to my husband with 2 wonderful children for 30 years. We have re-struck the passion fires a few years ago and this practice keeps me in my wholeness. I am excited for your program to take my love up another level Mira!!! Thank you for your work!

what a healthy relationship is

I wish I knew how beautiful I am and that I deserve love.

I wish I had known how to choose more wisely and not trust everything that people said.

I wish I knew that my greatest lesson was to learn how to receive love.

I wish I had known how to take care of me, to put my own well-being first and walk away sooner – instead of continuing to believe in and remaining loyal to the memory of what someone had been (and who they would, frequently enough, pay lip-service to still being – hoping that person would fully return and all would be right again) – instead of simply accepting who they had chosen to become and moving on.

When I started dating, I wish I knew (or believed) that I was lovable. Somehow when I was given expressions of love, I perceived it–or received it–as as the other person wishing to please themselves. Actually, I perceive dating to be similar to going on job interviews, where people are evaluated for compatibility. That seems kind of cold. I wish I knew dating was about enjoying each other whether the relationship would be short or long.