You accept worrying as normal. You think of it as a reasonable reaction to the problems of life. You know it creates emotional anxiety and physically stresses your body. Yet, what are you to do?
I have the solution for you. I have the few simple steps that will make worry a thing of your past. But first let me tell you why you need to stop worrying. I believe that you are a very reasonable person. And once you understand why worrying is detrimental to you, you will be open to the how and you will effortlessly use my process.
Worrying is not just an innocuous little thing that you do silently, privately in your mind. Somewhere along the way, you picked up the false perception that, in order to show how much you care, and how emotionally invested you are, you need to worry.
Why worrying never helps, but, in fact, hurts you, is because the fearful thoughts that you offer act as a suggestion, as a negative affirmation. You are repetitively imprinting your psyche and your subconscious with visions of the negative outcome. You are hypnotizing yourself into the misfortunes you are so eagerly looking to escape. And through the operation of the law of attraction, you are claiming and manifesting that reality as your future.
Giving into your fears and letting them run around rampant and unchecked in your mind is a very poor use of your creative power. Remember, you create your reality through the conscious focusing of your mind.
I know you want to do better. I know you want to experience amazing results in the areas where you are encountering challenges. And I believe you can do better. So let’s get to the how. Let’s give you your power back with these few simple steps.
Step 1: Notice
First, decide that you will catch yourself when you start worrying. Giving yourself this suggestion will have the result of automatically alerting you as soon as you start worrying.
Step 2: What If?
Second, ask yourself “What if the best possible outcome happens instead”? Question the fears that emotionally hijack you. Remember, the future is a probability. The future is created by the thoughts, feelings and expectations you offer in the present moment. As you say, “What if…” and imagine the possible joy, fun and successes, feel that warm wave of trust, faith and love spread over you.
Step 3: Fear is Faith in the Negative
Third, remind yourself that when you are projecting your fears into the future you are placing 100% of your faith in their manifestation. You always trust. Your ability to have faith is built into your being. You simply need to consciously direct the focus of the power of faith. Ask yourself, “Where am I placing my trust”? When you trust your fears, you are investing all of your creative power of expectation, visualization and projection into the negative. That is a misplaced use of faith.
Choose the positive. Choose to trust in what you would prefer the outcome to be. Sometimes, that choice will be as simple as mentally rearranging furniture in your mind. And other times when you have consistently practiced hypnotizing yourself in the negative, it may feel harder to make that switch. The solution is to use the aid of suggestion. Create a mantra of a simple sentence of what you want the outcome to be and what you want to believe instead. Affirming that repeatedly will give you the trust.
Step 4: Decide Not to Worry
The fourth step is the most important one. And it is so powerful that if in the moment of anxiety you forget the second and the third steps, this one alone will carry you through and save the day for you.
Resolve that you will not worry for a specific period of time. That period of time could be the rest of the day, the next few hours, or the next 15 minutes. Use the later one only if you are so anxious that you are a clear 10 on a scale of 0-10.
It is important that the time period is a reasonable one—a period that you know you can handle. It is of absolutely no use to tell yourself that you will never worry again.
At first, you may need to repeat this decision a few times. But the resolve will create a mechanism in you and it will become automatic.
This simple process is how you save yourself from the emotional rollercoaster of worry and how you become an even more conscious creator of your life.
I look forward to hearing your experiences with these steps and the results you get.