What Is Sacred Sexuality? Practices for Couples to Deepen Intimacy

Gloria’s story: a past life of sacred sexuality in ancient Egypt

Have you wondered about sacred sexuality? Have you wanted your intimate moments to be more profound but not been able to have that?

Gloria came to me for a past life regression in a state of deep sexual anxiety and fear. She had been recently married but was still distant from her husband and lacking any confidence in her beauty or sexual strength. Having been sexually abused as a child, she was hoping to find the answers by connecting with a past life. Our regression session was very revealing and powerful and she found exactly what she was looking for. Gloria began:

Gloria: I am in ancient Egypt and I am a young, beautiful queen. I feel that I am in touch with my sexuality and that it is very empowering. My current husband is my king and we are surrounded by thousands of people. Our teaching is all about love.

Mira: What is the king like?

Gloria: He is beautiful, maybe seven feet tall with broad shoulders, dark skin and eyes. I love my body and use it to love my husband, my king. My sexual energy is only for my husband but it is like a nurturing power. I can see the vibrations. It is beautiful but looking at myself now, I don’t understand. I don’t know where it is all coming from.

Mira: How does he accept your love and sexual energy?

Gloria: He just takes it. He is so powerful but has no ego. We are just the king and queen and we spread love. Everyone is living to their highest purpose, their callings and there is no competition among our followers. There is unconditional love among these thousands of people.

Mira: Find a private moment between you and your husband. Describe it to me.

Gloria: I have a clear picture of our sexual passion. There is energy spiraling through our chakras, through our heads. The energy is palpable. It feels like we are healing the world with this energy coming out of our heads. He has the same energy and it just feels perfect and right. It is not about our physical pleasure but rather, it is about spreading the energy of love.

Gloria was witnessing herself in another life experiencing deep, passionate sexual power. I was delighted to hear her describe to me a life in which she felt empowered in her body and in her openness to intimacy. Often times, lives in which we are successfully handling our present day challenges are the most healing experiences we can have. I wanted Gloria to feel how safe and fulfilling it was to receive the love of her partner, so I asked her:

Mira: Are you receptive to your husband’s energy?

Gloria: Yes, I feel protected and safe. My energy ignites his and makes him more powerful. We are totally connected and aware of the magic we are spreading. We do not have intercourse for pleasure but to spread love among our people. We are also being taught. I see scrolls in the sky and in cave paintings, like hieroglyphics. We study them like PhD students. We are at the top of our society, being asked to bring this energy to help heal the world. Our world needs it and we are honored and grateful to have been asked.

Mira: Go back to the scrolls. Tell me more about the studying and healing.

Gloria: The scroll looks like words from another language but I can still read them. I feel like I am opening my brain to receive a different level of understanding and cleansing. I can speak holy words but not in my native tongue, more like chanting. My king is next to me and we are receiving energy, like bright white light, illuminating us. I know I can’t do it alone. I am teaching him and have chosen him. He is my king. Our energy has merged and we can spread the energy and healing.

Gloria was experiencing the merging of the divine masculine energy with the divine feminine energy. She was describing to me the sacred sexual practices that were being taught to temple priestesses in Ancient Egypt. Synchronistically, at that time I was reading Sublime Union by Mercedes Kirkel, a book that delved into this very subject, so I was immediately able to recognize the validity and extraordinary importance of what she was describing.

As Gloria’s spirit was leaving the physical body at the end of that life, she said:

Gloria: I learned that I can spread healing and that the Earth needs so much healing right now. I don’t have to be afraid of my body, it is beautiful and I can feel empowered.

Next, with my guidance, Gloria encountered her spirit guides. They communicated that Gloria has a natural ability to help others heal. She was told that one of the advantages of the human body is that sexual energy can be used in a spiritual way. In this life, she learned she can create a vibration that can spread and heal other people.

As a little girl, Gloria wasn’t ready to harness the tremendous power of the pure love of the heart expressed as her sexuality. It was too much, so the trauma of the sexual abuse served to give her safety by closing off, because the fear kept her from opening to intimate experiences. The lifetime was given to her because it was time to heal the trauma and release the negative energy of fear for it had already served its purpose. It was time for Gloria to claim her power.

Let Gloria’s story inspire you. Approach your moments of making love as an opportunity to practice sacred sexuality. Feel the pure energy of love rise through your chakras. Use it to connect deeply and join into oneness with your partner and Source. Practice the merging of the divine feminine and the divine masculine energies so that you know your wholeness and the creative and healing power of your sexual energy.

Practicing sacred sexuality today

Quick answer: Sacred sexuality is the practice of approaching physical intimacy as a spiritual connection. Partners slow down, stay present, breathe together and share love with intention, so that making love becomes a way to feel deeply connected to each other and to something greater. Any couple of any orientation can practice it.

What is sacred sexuality?

Sacred sexuality treats intimacy as more than a physical act. It invites you to bring your whole self, heart, body and spirit, into the moment you share with your partner.

The idea is ancient. Many spiritual traditions have described sexual energy as a creative life force that can be honored and directed with awareness. In this view, the love you share in your most intimate moments can expand beyond the two of you.

Why does sacred sexuality matter for couples?

Busy lives can turn intimacy into a routine. Sacred sexuality brings back intention and presence. Couples who practice it often describe:

• feeling more seen and understood
• deeper trust and emotional closeness
• more playfulness and curiosity
• a sense that their connection has meaning beyond the everyday

What does sacred sexual energy mean?

Sacred sexual energy is the life force that rises when you feel desire, love and connection. You might feel it as warmth, tingling, expansion or a sense of aliveness.

As Gloria discovered, it is the pure energy of love rising through your chakras. You can use it to connect deeply and join into oneness with your partner and Source.

Every person carries both receptive and active energies, often called the divine feminine and the divine masculine. Sacred sexuality invites both partners to honor and balance these energies within themselves and between them, whatever their gender.

What is sacred foreplay?

Sacred foreplay is the slow, intentional time you spend connecting before and during physical intimacy. Its purpose is presence. You let anticipation build, you tune into each other’s energy and you create a feeling of safety and reverence.

Here are some sacred foreplay practices to try together:

1. Create the space. Dim the lights, light a candle, play soft music and put phones away.
2. Set an intention. Say out loud what you want to share, such as love, playfulness or closeness.
3. Gaze into each other’s eyes. Sit facing each other and hold eye contact for a few minutes.
4. Breathe together. Match your breathing rhythm, or let one partner inhale as the other exhales.
5. Heart touch. Place a hand on each other’s heart and feel the heartbeat.
6. Slow, mindful touch. Explore with curiosity, paying attention to every sensation.
7. Speak appreciation. Tell your partner what you love about them.

There is no rush and no goal. Sacred foreplay is complete in itself.

What are some sacred sexuality practices?

Presence

Keep bringing your attention back to this moment, to the sensations in your body and to your partner.

Breath

Slow, deep breathing helps you relax and feel more. Breathing together creates a sense of unity.

Energy awareness

Imagine the energy of love rising from the base of your spine up through your heart and crown. Some couples visualize it flowing in a circle between them.

Consent and communication

Sacred means respectful. Check in with each other, ask what feels good and honor every boundary. Safety is the foundation of deep intimacy.

Gratitude

After you make love, take a moment to rest together and express thanks for the connection you shared.

How can sacred sexuality connect to past lives?

Gloria’s session shows how a past life can heal intimacy in this one. In my past life regression work, people sometimes revisit lifetimes in which intimacy was a sacred practice, and that memory helps them release fear and feel at home in their bodies again.

Many couples also feel they’ve known each other before. You can read more about that on Soulmates and Past Lives and on my Past Lives page.

How can you start practicing sacred sexuality?

• Begin outside the bedroom. Share one meaningful conversation each day.
• Schedule time. Protect an evening each week for unhurried connection.
• Start small. Try five minutes of eye gazing and breathing together.
• Reflect together. Write about what you discovered.

A journal you share can help. My Couples Journal offers prompts that help partners talk openly, grow closer and keep love fresh.

Reflection prompt

When did you last feel completely present with your partner? What helped you feel that way, and how could you create that feeling again this week?

Frequently asked questions

What is sacred sexuality?

It’s the practice of approaching intimacy as a spiritual connection, with presence, intention and love.

What is sacred foreplay?

Slow, intentional connection before and during intimacy, using practices such as eye gazing, breathing together and mindful touch.

Is sacred sexuality only for certain couples?

No. Couples of any orientation and gender can practice it.

What is sacred sexual energy?

The life force you feel as desire, love and connection, which partners can honor and share with awareness.

How do we begin practicing sacred sexuality?

Create a calm space, set an intention, breathe together and take your time.

Grow closer one conversation at a time with the Couples Journal. You can also book a 1:1 session with me.