How can I help grown family members with addiction problems? How can I help myself in this situation?
Here are my thoughts on this.
Now I would love to hear from you. Have your say in the discussion below.
They Have an Addiction Problem
How can I help grown family members with addiction problems? How can I help myself in this situation?
Here are my thoughts on this.
Now I would love to hear from you. Have your say in the discussion below.
I had heard you speak several years ago at the Theosophical Society in Wheaton, IL. For some reason I was inspired to look at your website recently and the first thing I received from you was your thoughts on living with the problem of addictions. This is a problem I have lived with since I was born and still to this day & I am 69 yrs old. My parents had alcoholism mental illness & drug addiction. Now my oldest son is living with me. He has bi-polar disorder, alcoholism & heroin addiction. Everything you shared in this talk is the same emotional & spiritual wisdom of the 12 step program of AA & Al-Anon. Addictions is a gift from God to encourage people to realize their human limits & seek spiritual direction from God in their life.
Thank you so much Mira. The power/powerlessness aspect of your talk really hit home for me as I grew up in an alcoholic home and felt powerless all of my childhood. When I married my husband and he became addicted to alcohol as well, I made it my mission to “save him” from his addiction so that I wouldn’t have to feel powerless again in my adult life. Thank you again for helping me to realize this issue in my life. I will be here for my husband of 29 years, but I cannot walk his journey. I will continue to live my purpose and build up my life with the passions and experiences that fulfill me. You are a beautiful gift to all those who experience your message. We appreciate you.
Dana
Hi Mira, thank you for doing this short video. Power/ powerlessness, responsibility and awareness are certainly key factors. Hard though it is to do, your advice for the non-addictive persons affected is also spot on. They must protect their own sanity from the addiction! An addict will only recover when they look within and surrender. They can only be encouraged to do so. No-one can do it for them because it is their life, their journey. That can be frustrating for the affected persons but they must recognise this, step back and simply be supportive and encouraging to the addict. Of course, as you say, this experience is for all involved but in different ways and this must also be recognised. Every experience we have in life is to learn, grow and gain wisdom, joy and happiness even when it doesn’t look that way !
I post this as a recovering alcoholic and problem gambler. Addictions can be turned around and no longer be a problem. Trust this and ” believe in the unbelievable”. It happened for me.
Thank you again for Mira for putting your wisdom out there.
Mira,
Good subject. Thanks. Addicts don’t want to be addicts, deep down. We want to be free…..we curse ourselves every night and cozy up to our addictions the next day, thinking some how it will change. I feel bad for all involved. I didn’t chose this knowingly. It sucks. I never wanted to bring my problems on any one else. Your video made me realize that I probably don’t give too much thought about anyone else.
Except in the dark hours when you want to quit so bad and you think you can. You are going to be so much better, surprise everyone including yourself. Only to fail again. Yeah, it sucks. That disappointment is crippling. You get numb to it all. It’s a mind game and you know you are lying but you believe the lie.
I know people get through. I might get through. We are not out to hurt anyone. The switch goes on, and I can’t always turn it off. I pray I could just destroy the switch.
Love Ya,
Mike
Mira, thank you so much for your wisdom, love and joy. I have read your book Beyond Past Lives (digesting with great hunger!) and listened to your Past Life regression audio, both of which I may need to revisit.. I have been struggling in a relationship (for nearly 20 years, the last few being the most intense), in which my partner is an alcoholic (only recently self-recognised, after a serious stint in hospital in early 2016), and which unfortunately I have become sucked into in also becoming an addict myself, using it as a stress-management tool to deal with the situation! He has now gone sober (for how long?), but I have not (he does not know that).. So now I am beating myself up (mentally, emotionally), as well as my partner! To make things worse, I am a therapist (currently unable to work), so also feel like a big hypocrite! I am very spiritually minded (the only thing that has kept me going!), and have been searching, seeking, learning, practising various practices and techniques, meditating, exploring past lives, doing lots of forgiveness work, trying to understand the lessons.. All I know is, I have taken on some BIG lessons to learn this time around..!! Unfortunately I am still struggling, although maybe finally making some progress/understanding/learnings… Hoping, little by little, I will uncover and learn the lessons, be able to embrace my own Power again, and finally be able to move forward with my life and live my true/soul purpose in this lifetime.. Much love. XXX
Thank you, Mira. Your video both reminded me to go back to your book and reread about purpose in order to help me prepare for new family outcomes, and it also reminded me not to live my life wrapped around another’s life journey. How often I neglect my own journey in my over-desire to be helpful, responsible and caring to another adult! Thank you!
Is this post area working okay? There don’t seem to be any other comments. I posted a comment yesterday, but nothing has appeared – was it too controversial?
It might also be relevant to mention that my partner has also had a number of serious health problems over the last 10 years, requiring many medical and hospital appointments, investigations, and some treatments, all of which has contributed to the general state of overwhelm, difficulty coping, and difficulty in being able to move forwards..
Dear Mira,
So sad to admit I’m such a red winedrinker! I really like to know why I’m so addict to alcohol for more than 20 years but still can’t get rid of it and still going strong and still keep up hiding for family, my kids and myself! Its a shame and blame myself I cannot stop!!!
…tomorrow … is another Day with New chances? !!!!!!! PRay for me…